Dear  Dr  Shaikh    Your  healing   tip   about  volunteer,  victim  and   abuser   hit   me.

That  was   on my  mind  all  day

and  I  had   a dream  that night  that  answered all  my  questions.

I  realized  I  was  not  the  victim  but  was  a  volunteer   and  self  abuser  all  along  and  I  am  still  doing  it  in  different  way.

I  will  allow  people  to  walk  all over me.

I  know  what  I  have  to  do  to  transform  myself   from  volunteer  /  self  abuser   and   to    become  truly self aware.

Very  weird  dream.

In my  dream   my   brother  was asking me  to have  sex  with him and  I was  refusing .

He  was insisting  nicely  and  I agreed,    and  I  woke  up.

That  explained  my behavior, I  will  do anything  to please  others.  and  hoping   that they  will be  nice to me in return .

I have  fear   and I  will  do anything  to have peace  and  felt  good about  myself.

Now  I know  I have  to  change.

Thank you  very  much  for  your healing  tip

Jane  Smith. Self  abuser  / Volenteer