What I learned from my dad I used the same technique to my patient.
Mother brought 16 y old boy and was yelling at him asking me to tell him to stop using drugs.
I requested the mother to let me handle him.
I looked at the boy and said I reviewed chart you are a great student, good grades, you are doing lot better
than I was at 16, Mom and son staring at me.
I continued You are doing so well in this day and age, I am so proud of you.
He smiled at me. I Posed a question Do you use drugs, He was not expecting that and spontaneously said
Yes.
Her mother stood up why you was lying to me that you do not use drugs.
I requested to the mother Please do not interrupt. and promised to do so.
I asked the Boy Do you know what you need?
Kick in the butt Boy replied
I said no you need hug and kiss
I grabbed him and kissed on his forehead
He resisted for a moment and put his head on my shoulder and start crying.
Her Mom stood up and yelled Are you trying to tell the Doctor that I am a bad Mom.
and stormed out of the room.
Boy continued to cry for a moment and really opened up and told me his story.
Which was so sad but very typical. I comforted him and make an appointment in 1 week.
Next day her Mom came to see me and I explained when kids do something bad they feel the guilty
always use reverse phycology. take the responsibility and live them with guilt and it works most of the time.
6 months later and mom told me proudly that he is not using drugs any more.
My father did to me and I did to my patient and it worked,
Try it It may work for you.
I was 12 and I and my friend was throwing stones at each other
I throw a stone and it broke neighbor’s window.
My neighbor came to my dad and complained .
My Dad said just tell me how it will cast and I will pay you.
Are you going to say to your son” He asked.
No My dad replied.
He is wonderful boy gift to me , It is me I am not being a good dad.
What is the moral of this story?
Father son Stories
Son of a CEO brought report card and showed to his dad.
It was a bad grade.
Dad said This is great We have a lot of home work to do especially me
Son Said this is your report card when you was of my age and I found it in the garage.
Here is mine. I am so proud of you Dad . My report card is great, but thank you to be a reason for me to do so well.
Dad said if I can be a CEO with that report card can you imagine the possibilities for yourself.
Behind some successful man , there may a great Dad.
Story #2
Two Dads were talking One Dad said my son is the most stupid kid.
Other dad said I beg to disagree No one top my son.
First Dad called his son and said Son Call your Mom and ask her if I am with her?
Son Said Sure Dad and left
First Dad said can you believe that? He have no common sense.
Second Dad called his son and said Son Here are $20 dollars your Mom need a car to go to work.
Can you do that for me?
Sure dad and took $20 and left.
Both sons met outside and one son said to other My dad is the most stupid person .
Second son said your dad is no match to mine He is the worse of all
First Son Said He asked me to call mom , telephone was next to him He could have called himself to
mom if he is with her but he do not think and tell me to his dirt work.
Second son said Your dad is lazy not stupid. My father gave me the money to buy a car for mom, but
did not tell what color and what kind. When I will get him the car he will yell at me.
What is the moral of these stories?
Moral of the previous story
I must know my 1 2 3
God is No 1 I must worship , submit to God , fall in love with God
and give my heart to God. God will reside in my heart and fill it with light and love.
I will be #2 knowing that I am the gift to me and must love and take care of myself.
Then I know rest of the creation is created by GOD is #3
I will love the creation for the sake of God,
and love learn and serve God’s creation.
My life will be blessed with love happiness and joy.
NOW I KNOW MY 1 , 2 3.
Difficulties, sufferings, sickness, difficult peoples and challenges are all gifts of God.
These gifts give us purpose of life.
Without these gifts life is a waste.
PS: God created the cure or solution before God created any disease or issue. waiting for human to discover
the cure or solution and serve their purpose.
Marriage is union of two souls
Humans do have incompatibilities.
Soul driven person accept the other person as a gift and keep growing.
and will be soul mates for ever.
If both are spiritual that will be perfect marriage.
Otherwise marriage become co dependent , can not live with other,
and unable to live with other and may end up in divorce
It is never too late to take a U turn and become spiritual being and accept other as a gift of God.
and live happily ever after
THE END
Long time ago in a tribe they decided to search for the most noble person of the tribe.
After a long search they find a man who was very generous giving , and no one knew that.
They all agreed he is the most selfless and noble person.
They asked him to find the worst person of the tribe.
He came back after many years that I can not find any one who is worse than me.
Same with Mother Teresa she wrote in her diary I see darkness in me.
The world see light in her and she see light in poor and hungry and able to see
her darkness.
That man and Mother Teresa were two rightous persons.
Rightous can be religous or not .
Religous person may not be rightous
Being religous and being rightous are two different things.
Any human being can be rightous.
I have find inmates who are rightous.
Rabbis priest, imams or religous leader may not be rightous
Religous peole may see fault in others,
But a rightous person always see faults with in.
Religion is exclusive, Rightouness in inclusive.
Sometime religion devide, rightousness always unite/.
Religour people try to change the world Rightous person tries to change the world within.
Two fathers were talking about their sons.
One father said my son is the most stupid person in the world.
Other father said no one can be any match to my son.
First father disagred and said I will prove to you that my son is more stupid than your father.
So he called his son and said said Son Call your mother and ask if I am with her.
Son Said Sure dad and left.
Other father called his son and said I want to buy a car, here is $20 can you get me a car we do need an extra car
for your mom.
Both Sons med outside and first son said My dad is the most stupid person in the world.
Second son said you dad is no match to my dad. My dad is the most stupid person in the world.
First one said My dad is not only stupid he is lazy. The telephone was next to him hecould call him self to check with Mom.
No not only he can not think and is too lazy and tell me to do it.
Second son said my dad told me to buy the car and never told me which kind or color and when I will get the car he will
yeell at me.
What is the moral of the story?
When I was a child I loved Robin Hood who rob the rich and give to poors
Now I have lot of questions.
Some one said 50 % used to his service charge and either he comited suiside or was killed during robery.
Now I loved Robin Williams and he comitted suiside.
Now I have lot of questions.
Do I like to be Robin Hood or Robin Williams??
What about you guys ? Love to have your input.
I read a artiche that a college professor need cardiac transplant.
He end up reciving the heart of drunk driver who died in MVA.
After the tranplant, the professor never used alchol start drinking heavily and died of liver issues.
I am not sure about the validity of this story, but it certainly raise questions in my mind.
Is brain is the command center or heart is the command center or two different center work together
or work independently.
Give your opinion thanks